Boundaries

Lets talk boundaries and children. For those who have Children do you teach them boundaries? If so what are they? The reason I ask is because I was out the other day with my children and we were sitting down at a bench when this little girl about 4 years old came up to us. At first she peaked into my stroller to look at my girls and I didn’t mind that but then she started to look underneath my stroller where I keep my purse and everything else and started looking for bottles. I had to ask her to stop and to not look in there.

Then she turned to my boys who were sitting on a bench and she tried to unzip their jackets and she starts to pet and stroke their heads. I once again had to ask her to stop and that they didn’t need their jackets unzipped. My boys just kind of looked at me like they didn’t know what to do, and frankly I didn’t know what to do either. I didn’t want to be rude to her or mean, she was just 4 years old maybe she didn’t understand the concept of boundaries but standing in the distance was her grandmother… Or I assume it was her grandmother she was probably in her 60’s and all she was doing was standing in the distance and watching the whole thing.

I was thankful that our bus came when it did because The whole situation was uncomfortable. This little girl was all over my children and my stuff while the parental figure in her life just watched on. Maybe it’s all in personality or maybe it’s how your raised but I have never encounter this kind of situation where boundaries where being crossed that even my boys where uncomfortable.

What do you think? Is it the way kids or even adults are raised or is it simply a personality thing that makes the person think its okay to invade other people’s personal spaces.

Have you ever dealt with this? What did you do and if it was a child was it handled differently and where was their parental figure as this was happening?

I’d love to hear from you.

Gotta run children are going crazy!

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